Metro Ménage

If you've ever ridden any mode of public transportation in a urban area then you are familiar with the unpredictable & unexplainable. I have had my fair share of experiences as a native Washingtonian who has been riding the bus and train for the past 10 or so years. From the unks and the crackheads who ride the 70 & 71 to the ghettofabulous children who ride the 30 buses, I've seen it all...

On one particular day this summer, I was riding the Metro home from work. I found a seat, got comfortable, and began reading a novel I was in the middle of. I'm usually oblivious to those around me on the Metro because I almost always have something to read to help me tune everything out. However I do have two rules I abide by 1. avoid sitting by anyone who smells, preaches, or is already talking loudly & 2. survey the train as you enter it. So when this guy sat beside me I was fully aware of the fact that he had been standing in the corner with his co-workers all along. How did I know they were co-workers? They all wore government badges around their necks.

The guy sits, introduces himself as _____. I politely say nice to meet you _____ and continue to read. Guys should see this as a challenge, because if you are able to successfully divert a female's attention from a book, etc. without annoying her, then you've probably got her. He asked what I was reading and I told him " a book by George Pelecanos; he's from here..." He seemed interrested and here the fun begins:

GUY: "I knew you were smart when I saw you get on the train. You're all reading your book and whatnot. You in school?"
ME: "Yea..."
GUY: "I knew it. You have a pretty face. [Pause]
ME: [Confused look @ the weak pick-up line] 'Thank you."
GUY: "Can I ask you a personal question? I don't want to offend you or make you mad you know..."
ME: [Out of curiosity I respond>] "Yea, go ahead."
GUY: "Are you attracted to other women? Like not are you gay, but like do you think they're pretty?"
ME: "Yea, I think certain women are pretty."
GUY: "Well me and my wife we like trying new things and I was wondering if you would like to have fun with us? We're really close & we've done it once before. But we're only looking for someone who has they're head on straight; that has something going for theirselves."
ME: "Um, no I have a boyfriend, I don't think so. Why don't you just find the other person yall tried it with?"
GUY: "She moved to North Carolina."


So I had a pleasant talk with a stranger and an offer for a ménage à trois all in the same convo. And it left me on the fence about the ménage à trois phenomenon. Most people fantasize about them. Some execute them. But if you're in a relationship is it worth it try it? Seems so risky. I feel like over time I've decided that I'm not interested in them. But to each his own...

Here's a link for a funny metrorail "performance":

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-NZtGz_7WI0

Going great so Far

Back at school now this semester!

My sister just had her Sweet Eighteen!

Just got a great new job!

The Guy is still great! He's at home more now. One word: economy...

Got enough saved to buy my first car!

I've been "natural" for about 7 months now & I'm happy with my new hair!


Over all a lot of things are going well in my life. I'm trying to stay positive. When I'm alone I seem to be the most happy. I think that when I'm around people I'm either really happy or cranky : / Don't know why I have a change of heart around the Guy so often. Yesterday he said I'm only happy around him at night...no pun intended. He meant that when we go to bed I seem to be at peace with him. My mother calls me "intense" in the sense that I can have a fierce attitude at times. Think I get it from my Dad, he's a hothead...

Anywho, craziest thing ever happened to me two days ago. I use public transportation & I love it! Except for when my feel hurt & there's no seats to sit in, or the air conditioning is too high or completely off, likewise with the heat, etc., etc. So needless to say, I catch the bus and train to school. From the train there's a free shuttle to my campus. So I get on the shuttle and sit next to a girl. I'm minding my own business, reading the paper, and then I 'sniffle'. I think I hear the girl next to me say something under her breath, but I'm not sure. I 'sniffle' again, and I clearly hear her say 'Stop!'. Huh? Ok, so I 'snifle' again for good measure, just to see if she would respond. No response. So I turned to her and said "Did you just say something to me?" She said "Yea, I just have a problem with people sniffling near me..." yada, yada, yada. Are you flippin' kidding me??? I told her she should be more polite and ask me to stop, or something. I mean come on, would you tell a stranger to STOP SNIFFLING!? I could see someone saying, stop stepping on my foot, stop breathing down my neck, etc. But sniffling, idk.

Habitually So

Up late again. Have to work two jobs tomorrow. Should be sleep but oh well...

I'm on Imeem listenin to the Renaissance by Q Tip. I love good Musik. His voice & his rhymes take me to another place. As an artist, he is absolutely intriguing. So far I'm stuck on his single 'Gettin Up.'

http://www.imeem.com/people/YEzqneG/playlist/5v4B sE9W/the_renaissance_qtip2008_music_playlist/

I want to clean up our Room. I'm not a neat freak. But I like order. There should always be some sense of order among chaos. So basically, I don't care if TheGuy has a pile of clothes in the corner, so long as he can find his things. We watched this movie recently titled Chaos with Jason Stratham, Wesley Snipes, and Ryan Phillippe. The movie was really good, but most interesting was the incorporation of the Chaos Theory. I guess I'll run into it at some point since I am a Socy major...Anyway, the theory simply states that things that may seem chaotic are in fact deterministic events and therefore orderly in some way, although they don't seem so. I understand the concept for the most part. I believe it too. Things in life may seem totally random but they're definitely apart of some larger plan orchestrated by some magnificent being. Plans are deterministic. For the most part. I know my plans never go through the way I want them to, but then again, I'm not an omniscient being.

Earlier today I went out with TheGuy and Fam. We went to Georgetown a major shopping area for those with major money. Bought some cloves and Midnight Dreams at a cigar shop. Never been in one before so we were totally overwhelmed by the smoke filled store. Decided I wanted to pick up a habit to relieve stress. I want something I can afford to do as often as possible (because I get stressed out alot!) that won't harm my health, or that I will get tired of, etc. Smoking obviously is not that answer. But I have the smokes none the less. I'll let you know how/if they work. The cloves actually are a gift for my uncle. On the same note I have tried and wanted to stick with hookah. There is just something about a nice hookah bar with big, fluffy pillows, chai teas, and long lists of hookah flavors...But I want something I can do at home and I doubt it if my MNL would let me smoke hookah in her crib. Anywho, what about yoga? I don't know anyone who does it. My uncle is big on meditation. I could try that (much stress on the 'could' part). Meditating takes time and patience, two things I'm starting to have less and less of. I need suggestions big time! Actually I guess at times like this I could be meditating or reflecting or something...

It's about that time. I'm gonna mellow out to the Renaissance for the rest of the night. Sweet Dreams.